“I never felt pretty. I don’t feel pretty now. I’m not a pretty person. I don’t like pretty. So I don’t feel badly. And I think it worked out well, because I found that all the girls I know who got by on their looks, as time went on and they faded, they were nothing. And they were very disappointed. When you’re somebody like myself, in order to get around and be attractive, you have to develop something, you have to learn something, you have to do something. So you become a bit more interesting.”
Every age has its own beauty regime. My 15 year old daughter spends forty minutes in the bathroom getting ready for school. At 45 years of age, I spend about 8 minutes throwing my face together. When she finally exits the bathroom, I tell her she’s beautiful. Then again, I always tell her she’s beautiful, period.
How do you transmit the concept of beauty to your teenage daughter? When did you come to the conclusion that you were beautiful because you felt beautiful and not because someone else said, “Oh, you look so pretty today?” How many times does a mother have to tell her daughter she’s beautiful before she internalizes that concept?