How the Word “No” Can Set You Free


“The only way to find a life of meaning and joy is to find your own voice, find your own path, follow your own heart, and live your own life, not an imitation of somebody else’s.”  -Maria Shriver, Just Who Will You Be?


When I was a little girl, more often than “Yes”, I heard the word “No”.

Can I get an XBox 360??? Please, please, I know it costs a lot, but I study hard, I do well in school, can I please have an XBox 360?

“No, if you want an XBox, you’ll have to pay for it yourself. I work hard to support you and your sister, and I don’t have spare money lying around to pay for extras.” My mom said.

I really wanted that XBox.

Everyone played Halo 3, Call of Duty, and Assassin’s Creed. I was the only one without an Xbox.

At the age of 13, I started working for that Xbox.

I babysat for the neighbors across the street. I saved my birthday money and slowly I reached a total of 80 dollars. My stepfather took me to the store. While we were there, he asked me if I wanted to buy my stepbrother’s used Xbox, it was just as good as a new one for half the price, but I said No. I wanted a new Xbox.

I had worked hard to earn it, and I wanted it to be my own.

I bought the Xbox and fell in love with Assassin’s Creed. Six months later these really cool sweaters were in style and everyone in my school had one. I babysat every weekend and earned enough money to buy one. When I was sixteen, my father agreed to buy me a new car if I paid for the insurance every six months. I said, “Thank you so much, ok!” I got myself a job at a fast food restaurant in the mall, continued babysitting and made those insurance payments every six months.

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